Got my hair all cut off today it just takes to long and I don't have te eneergy anymore to do much (chronic fatigue) and we find out hubby treatment plan soon so that will be taking up time each day..so just easier.
While out that way..its about 40 mins from the house we went to the butchers and I filled up our freezer so we have plenty as we are not sure how hubby will go with treatments and his copd...but we are covered in that area...so I less thing to worry about.
Was talking about funerals the other day..we do on a regular basis...and I had friends say that we were weird that we don't want funerals..me, my hubby and oldest DD just aren't interested...I think they are a waste of money and I want my ashes planted under a fruit tree that anyone can eat from...they said what if people want to say goodbye to you...well if people want to see me they can do it while I am alive, funerals are expensive and a waste of money...we all think this..and i don't want headstones I think if you have them then family feel obligated to visit you or they never visit you and feel guilty so why bother..but these are our thoughts and what we want..its also written in our wills...and the kids know what we want...so do you think we are weird? or do people just think it is a society norm that that is what they should do??
funerals and other gossip
February 25th, 2020 at 06:16 am
February 25th, 2020 at 11:18 am 1582629502
I think the small get together ( of whatever kind) is good for the family and close friends. It just helps to mark the transition.
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February 25th, 2020 at 12:48 pm 1582634902
My siblings mostly threw a fit wanting a service NOT for our mother but more of a gathering for them. One even writing nasty things about me refusing on social media. Many of their own friends told them plan and PAY for whatever service they wanted and she shut up.
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February 25th, 2020 at 03:17 pm 1582643822
As for expensive, you are spot on as far as that. It's quite the racket, just like big weddings are.
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February 26th, 2020 at 10:53 pm 1582757609
When my former husband died (suicide) there was a traditional service done in a funeral home with my minister sister officiating. He was indigent and it was provided through the generosity of the funeral home and county assistance. I think it was important for his family including our son. My son knew his father loved him and was aware of his father's struggle with wondering if people loved him but he was able to witness that his Dad was loved by all of the people there that day.
I don't want a "funeral" but I hope that those that are still living might gather to spend some time together and think of me. As for my body, I'd love to have some kind of green burial but if we haven't figured that out yet, cremate me. I do hope that my spouse and I go at the exact same time, it took us too long to find each other and we both can't imagine being without each other.